I have been reflecting quite a bit this week about goals, how to identify them, how to keep them and how to share them. Mainly because I have been reviewing my own goals. 

We have lots of different goals: personal, professional, goals for our organisations, goals for our children, goals for our football teams. But if you are a West Ham supporter that last one might be a bit of a fantasy just at the moment……….I can say that – my husband is a West Ham supporter and he is a little grumpy right now…..

In our personal and working lives, goals have to be:

  • Clear
  • Defined
  • Positive
  • Challenging
  • Real
  • Interesting
  • Able to be visualised
The also have to be one more thing if we are to take them seriously: they need to be written down. Once we have written them down they are real, touchable, and we have admitted to them in public. OK, that public may only be your cat watching as you write it down and them hide it at the back of a drawer, but you have done it, committed it to paper, and admitted to yourself that you want something more than what you already have. That matters.
If you still don’t really know what your goals are, think about this:
  • What do I enjoy doing at work?
  • What do I enjoy doing when I am not at work?
  • What would I do tomorrow if I won £1,000,000 on the Lottery?
  • What makes me wake up thinking – Fab! Today is the day that I ………?
  • What makes me smile?
One last big question: what would I like to do more of?
One thing that people often say to me when we talk about aims, goals, objectives and happiness is that they feel selfish if they talk about their goals, as if they somehow detract from other peoples aims. They don’t.  Unless they involve zombie flesh eaters and your own private empire monitored by Gorgons. If your goals make you happy and meet the above aims, you will be happier, more fulfilled, will smile more and will be nicer to be around. Even when you are not achieving your goals, the fact that you have something you want to aim for, that you will be purposefully pursuing your pathway and have a picture in your head of what could be, you will be a nicer person. Trust me!
The only thing between you and your reasonable goals is you.

The next things to ponder are what you will need to move towards your goals. And that is what we will think about next time………….meanwhile: write down your goals. It doesn’t matter if you think they are silly, or childish, or out-of-reach. Write them down. Tell someone you trust, perhaps. Maybe even email me or message me on here and tell me. I won’t tell anyone! And you are then one step closer to making them happen. 
That really does work!! Try it out. And we’ll pick this up again next time.
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